Friday, September 14, 2012

Birds & the Bees- When is the Right Time for the Talk

When is the right time to have the talk with your kids about the "Birds & the Bees"?  Is there ever a good time?

I do not really know the answer to those questions but I do know that I may have to have the talk with my 11 year old son (who will be 12 in Nov.) REAL SOON.

It seems that he is going through some changes lately as far as having a hard time focusing in class, moody, and well... always having "wood".  He has two sisters and my son thinks it’s OK to walk around the house in his underwear a lot.  I tell him constantly "stop doing that you have sisters in the house".  I have not pointed out the reason why yet because I didn't want to embarrass him.

A few nights ago I was getting ready to hit the bed and I always check on the kids before I do to make sure there TV's are off etc... I walked to his room and his door was shut so I opened it and well... you know the rest.

I didn't let on that I knew but I really started thinking that maybe that is the reason he is having mood swings all the time and like I said before, lack of focus.

I remember when I was his age.  Of course I was A LOT more active at his age and I am thankful that he is not.  I had a lot of freedom as a child, I was also a lot more mature than my son at that age and because I know what I did at that age is why I keep my kids on a short leash.

Anyway, so now I am starting to think that it is time for me to have the "talk" with my son.  He may be thinking he is weird or that there is something wrong with him and I don't want him to feel like that.  I know a lot of parents avoid that conversation like the plague but I really feel that if a child is having those issues they could possibly develop self-esteem issues if they feel like there is something wrong with them.

Give me some input.  What are your thoughts?  Ever had a situation like this?  Please share your stories if you have.