Thursday, June 28, 2012

Grown Man -VS- Clown: They are Just Creepy

My daughter and my son had a conversation with each other over Facebook that was pretty funny, so my wife was going to copy it and send it to me.  Well, last night around midnight I get a link from her and I assumed it was the conversation I was waiting for.  Well, you know what they say when you ASS U ME. 

Now for those that have not read my About Page or my Top 12 Pet Peeves you may not know that I hate clowns, border line terrified of clowns.  Yes, a grown man that does not like clowns and I KNOW I am not the only one.  I am just the only one that will probably admit it.  They are just creepy. 

I guess you could say I was scared of clowns as a kid; why you ask?  Well, maybe it’s because I watched Poltergeist at the age of oh I don’t know, seven.  The Poltergeist Clown Scene scared the living daylights out of me.  So as a kid I was terrified but I guess now I just hate them. So this morning I was preparing a blog post about the conversation that my daughter and son had between one another, and when I opened the link that my wife had sent me last night this is what I opened.

 What a way to start out the morning..... wetting my pants. Just kidding people, I didn’t actually wet my pants.  Well maybe just a little. LOL

Monday, June 25, 2012

That's Right, I Said It

Never thought as a dad I would be looking for cleaning supply coupons.  I guess until I became a stay at home dad I didn't realize a lot of things.  Things like, it is a full time job being a stay at home dad, and unlike a lot of dads I do not sit at home and watch porn on the computer all day.  Oh no, did I just spill the beans on all of you dads that do actually stay at home and do that?  Please, you are not fooling anyone, your wife knows, she just pretends like she does not know.

Most moms know what it takes to be a stay at home parent, so if you ‘the dad” are home all day and she comes home to find the house is a disaster and dinner is not cooked, then what do you think she thinks you were doing all day?  Then she says to you “what did you do all day”?  Does not feel good when the shoe is on the other foot does it?

How many times has your husband come home and said that to you?

The other thing I hate is how the public perceives the Daddy figures.  Mother's Day is much more publicized than that of Father's Day.  My spam mail says it all.  I maybe received two advertisements for Father's Day but about 100 of them for Mother's Day. And no, I am not saying I want spam mail from any of you. :)

Some women look at dads like we are bumbling idiots, like we are incapable of being left alone with kids or completing a task.  Don't get me wrong, I know there are plenty of dead-beat dads but I definitely do not put myself in that category.  And it is not entirely the women’s fault that the public perceives us dads in that way; it is also the fault of the media, dead-beat dads, the dad that only thinks of himself, the dad that is lazy and does not want to work or lift a finger in the house to help out, and the dads that for so many years have said women should be submissive to their men.  Get real, it is the year 2012, no woman should have to bow down to her husband, boyfriend or whatever. Let’s not forget the dad that leaves his family because he could not handle being a dad then refuses to pay child support, the dad that would rather be at work than home with his family, the dad that refuses to get up in the middle of the night and change diapers, dads that physically or verbally abuse their family, the alcoholic dad and I could go on.

My point is this, those dads need to step up to the plate, rise to the occasion, stop being fools and would it kill you to get up off your a** and help with the kids instead of watching football?  You are making all of the other dads including me look bad, it’s time to raise the bar.

 I am sure there are plenty of moms that are just as guilty of being dead beat moms but the numbers are far greater for dads and that is the reason the media and general public have perceived dads this way for so long.

No, I am not perfect and I have my faults, but I tell it like I see it.

Oh, and before I start getting hate mail from you dads trying to defend yourself or bashing women (and I know I will get it because I have had to delete some pretty rude comments toward women in the past), I say this to you; if you have to send hate mail to defend yourself then you are most likely guilty.  The dad that knows he is a good dad wouldn't have to respond.  I also don't want to hear anything about me being a stay at home dad therefore I wouldn't know what it is like to work and then come home tired and just want to sleep.  Been there done that and I still made time for family and the kids.  I still came home and did all the cooking.  I do not want to see any comments asking me if I am gay or whipped, that is just ignorant on your part.  If it makes me gay because I am a good dad, I respect my wife and kids, and take care of the house, well then, I guess I am gay.

I am a stay at home dad because.......well, if you have read my blog then you know why.

 Anyway, here are the coupons that sparked this blog post.  They are for cleaning supplies for those who would care to print them.

OOingle - Rootin' for Deals: Hot Coupons!! Let’s get Cleaning: D: Was greeted with a nice list of coupons this morning for cleaning products. Print those up now, never know when these will go on sale. ...

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Golden Corral In Ocala, FL Shuns My Son And The ILL

Parents always hate it when their kids are sick or not feeling well.  It makes us feel helpless when we cannot do anything to make them feel better.

Several months back my son was just that, not feeling well.   He was having some tests done and could at that time have only liquids’.  My wife and I had been on the go all day with no time to eat but we finally came to a point where food had to reach our mouths.  We wanted to eat somewhere quick, somewhere without the fast food aftertaste, so we decided to go to the Golden Corral in Ocala, Fl.  I had asked my son if he minded if we stopped for a bite even though he was still on liquids only, he said he didn't mind and he would just get a Gatorade.  

We arrived at Golden Corral, however to our surprise they refused to seat us.  The manager said if my son wanted to sit at the table we would still have to pay for him to come in, like an admittance fee.  The manager said it is the policy of Golden Corral.  I explained to the manger that I would be willing to buy my son a Gatorade with no problem but I was not paying for a meal that was not going to be eaten.  The manager very rudely told us we would have to leave and we did.

Later that evening after finally arriving home I decided to call the corporate office for Golden Corral .   I had to leave a message though because everyone was out of the office.

Several days later I finally got a return phone call from a very arrogant woman who claims she was the top dog.  I explained the situation to her and expressed my frustration only to hear crickets. 

Here is how the rest of the conversation went:

Me:  “Are you still there”?

Her:  “Yes, I’m here.”

Me: “Are you going to respond”?

Her: “What would you like me to say”?

Me: “I would like you to pretend like you at least care”.

Her: “It is our Policy, if you want to come in you have to pay regardless if you eat or not”.

Me: “So you don’t think that policy is out of line in circumstances like mine”?

Her: “If your son is sick why were you trying to come to eat in the first place”?

Me: “It’s not like he had the flu, nothing contagious, he hadn’t had an appetite and was having blood work done so he was drinking liquids’ only”.

Her: “Maybe you should have left him at home”.

Me: “So what if it was someone that had cancer and couldn’t hold down food or was in a wheel chair and had in a feeding tube but wanted to be with the family at the table. Would you turn them away too”?
Her: “Well if that is the case then that person should not be coming out in public”.

Me: “Are you serious?  You do realize you are discriminating and could potentially open yourself up to a lawsuit”.

Her: Click

Me: “Hello, are you there”?

Her: Dial Tone

Yes, that is correct; she hung up on me after basically telling me that someone in that condition should not go out in public.  And believe me, she was extremely rude about it.

I couldn’t believe it.  I was so furious but what was I going to do? What could I do?  Well, after this conversation came up again over Father’s Day weekend because the entire family had decided to drive all the way out to the Villages to eat at a completely different Golden Corral, I decided to do what any good blogger would do.  J

If you have ever had anyone in your family with cancer as I have, then you know how infuriating this is.
What would you have done in this situation?

Thursday, June 14, 2012

From Car Accident To Diazepam Coping With My 5 Year Old

In December of 2011 I was involved in a car accident; my 5 year old daughter was also in the car.  I was exiting an off ramp and came to a stop at the bottom of the ramp when BAM, a man driving a SUV slammed into the rear of the vehicle I was driving at approximately 50mph.  The vehicle I was driving was a total loss and the injuries sustained by my daughter and myself still linger.

My 5 year old has been having headaches, night terrors, neck spasms, and episodes of wetting the bed since the accident.  For the first three to four months following the accident she slept in my bed between my wife and I, terrified to be left alone.  I thought she was getting back to normal, and while she still has been having headaches and complaining of her shoulders and neck hurting for the most part I thought the anxiety was over, but I was wrong.  Over the past few weeks she has reverted back to being terrified to sleep in her room, to the point that sometimes she will cry so hard she almost throws up.  I have been letting her fall asleep in my bed then I move her to her own.

Several weeks back the doctor prescribed Diazepam A.K.A Valium for her, to help with the anxiety.  I couldn’t believe it, a doctor prescribing such a medication for my 5 year old daughter.  I was not thrilled with the suggestion so I obtained a second opinion only to get the same answer.

I administered the medication to my daughter for two weeks according to the dosage and quickly began to notice a change, and not the thank all that is holy kind of change but the WTF kind of change.  My daughter’s behavior began to quickly decline.  She began to be defiant, whiney, and very confrontational.   After seeing such a negative effect on her I decided to end the medication without consulting the doctor.  I felt that if it was affecting her in that way, I as the parent have to do what is right for my child, especially when I know she does not have a behavior problem.

When I returned to the doctor and explained what had happened I expected support from the doctor, I expected the doctor to say I made the right call.  However that is not what happened at all.  The doctor was actually upset that I had taken her off of the medication, upset that I did not follow his orders.  I explained to the doctor that regardless of his recommendations the medication was clearly not the right treatment for my daughter, I told him that as a parent it is my job to decide what is best for my child and the medication clearly altered her personality, so I made the fatherly decision to stop the medication.

Sometimes I think doctors get it wrong and like to dismiss the patients concerns too quickly.  No respectable parent would keep their child on a medication that so greatly alters their child’s mood.    Notice I said respectable parent, let’s face it, some parents don’t deserve to be parents.

Last night my daughter was up at 3am, she came to my bedside, gently tapped me, looked at me with those big brown eyes and whispered “daddy can I please sleep with you and mommy I’m scared”, now how can I say no to that?

I long for the day that all injuries will heal and the emotional scarring will subside.   My injuries are one thing, but having a 5 year old go through something like this is heartbreaking.

What would you do?  Would you continue the Meds?  Have any tips?

Promoting Underage Drinking
Coke Addiction

Monday, June 11, 2012

Preacher Creflo Dollar Arrested- Evil Sits At The DinnerTable

Family man and preacher Creflo Dollar was arrested and charged with simple battery and cruelty to children after he choked, punched, and hit his daughter repeatedly with his shoe following an argument over a party with his 15 year old daughter.

Dollar's 15 year old daughter called 911 and told a Fayette County sheriff’s deputy that her father charged her, put his hands around her throat, began to punch her and repeatedly hit her with his shoe.  Eventually the father threw the 15 year old to the floor.  The deputy noted marks on the 15 year old's neck in the police report.

Dollar is citing that his 15 year old daughter as well as his 19 year old daughter who corroborated the 15 year old daughter’s statement is lying.  Dollar states that both daughters are exaggerating the story.

The wife claims she did not see the fight.  Very typical!  There is actually an old case of this same situation, a black preacher married a woman who had many children, he refused to send them to school so they were forced to home school.  He would beat the children that were not his blood until he eventually killed one.  The wife claimed she had no idea.  They both fled leaving the other kids behind with no family. The couple is still wanted by the FBI.

Creflo Dollar is heavily liked in the black community in Atlanta,Ga where he has over 30,000 followers at his World Changers Church International.   His followers have stated after Dollar appeared publicly that they have his back and believe his daughters are lying, even giving him a standing ovation. WHAT?

Are they brainwashed?  They honestly believe that both daughters are making the story up?  This does not surprise me in the least.  I am sure Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton are going to be all over this eventually.

I do not care how many followers he has.  Child abuse is child abuse, period. He obviously takes the expression "spare the rod spoil the child" to the extreme. I am all for disciplinary action when my children get fresh with me or another adult, but I in no way shape or form believe in choking, punching, or beating a child repeatedly with a shoe.

This man does not deserve to have children.  If he was this extreme in this situation, then chances are he has done it in the past and gotten away with it.  You do not become a child abuser over night.

Dollar's wife does not realize that evil sits at her dinner table.  Or does she?  Some experts say men who abuse their children often abuse their spouse as well.  I am not saying he is, I am just saying its possible.

His wife should realize what kind of example he is setting for his daughters.  If a father beats his daughters chances are they will be drawn to the abuse and marry an abusive man.  I myself have 2 beautiful daughters, and I can tell you if I ever found out that my daughters were being abused when they are old enough to marry, I would flip, and probably end up in jail for protecting them.   Any respectable father would never put his hands on a female period, especially his daughters.

If dollar's daughters are lying then shame on them and charge them with filing a false police report; but if the accusations are in fact true then shame on Creflo Dollar and I hope he does time in jail.

Do you think both daughters are lying?  If your husband was beating your daughter would you turn a blind eye?  As a father do you think it’s OK to punish your child in this manner?

Thursday, June 7, 2012

Bealls Outlet Thief Walks Out Front Door

This past weekend I was on vacation with my wife and kids.  We stayed in Ormond Beach, at my kids favorite resort spot.

While on vacation I needed to purchase a new shirt to replace one that was ruined by bleach, so we visited the local Bealls Outlet.

After choosing a few shirts to try on I made my way to the dressing room.  I tried on a few shirts and after picking the one I liked, I opened the door to get my wife’s opinion, but she wasn’t there.  Instead, I observed a black male stuffing clothes into an empty backpack.

The man turned around and I noticed his extremely blood shot eyes were peering back at me.  Instead of immediately leaving the store, he walked into the dressing room next to mine and placed his backpack inside.  He then exited the room and began to remove clothes off the racks by the hand full.

At this point, I was really irritated by his ballsy move to continue to steal after he knew I witnessed his crime.   I mean let’s face it, people like him are one of the reasons prices go up.  I approached a supervisor on duty and made her aware of the situation.  She acted surprised and made a general announcement that all activity is video recorded.  The announcement does not faze the thief in the least.

The thief continued to pull clothes off the racks and he eventually made his way back to the dressing room.  I returned to the dressing room that is located next to his and I hear his back pack un-zip then zip back up.  The thief entered the dressing room with a stack of clothes and exited with empty hands but a bulging backpack.

The thief slowly walked toward the front door and I expressed to the supervisor that his backpack is jam packed.  Her reply was, “I see that.”   He walked right out the front door. She did not even attempt to stop him.  I said to her, “why did you just let him walk out with hundreds of dollars in merchandise?” She replied “I am not allowed to stop anyone from stealing!”  WHAT?  Not allowed? As in it’s a store policy?
The thief turned back and looked in our direction with a very smug grin on his face as he walked right past the store window.  I wanted to beat him down.  Try that Sh** at JCP or Macy’s.   They will chase you through the parking lot if they have too.

The next day I returned to the store to return a pair of shoes that I had purchased for my daughter.  As I walked into the store; what did my eyes see?  I see the same guy with the same backpack in the store and the same supervisor on duty.


After seeing this, I am thinking one of two things:  either this guy was cracked out of his mind and just did not care or the supervisor was in on it.  You may say that’s just a conspiracy theory; however it happens all the time.  A supervisor was busted at a Kmart in Ocala, Florida for that very thing.  The difference is the supervisor at the Kmart was doing it on a much larger scale.

So what do you think about this situation?  Does it aggravate you to know that honest people who pay their hard earned dollars are most likely paying higher prices in the long run due to the lack of loss prevention?  Inside job or just a ballsy cracked out thief?