Consider the feelings of your significant other. How would you feel if your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife ignored you and flirted with every person they saw? You would be pretty ticked off.
Flirting with another person only tells your partner that you really don’t care about how they feel or about them in general as studies have shown. You are only interested in instant gratification and obsessed with outside opinions. Your partner’s love is not enough for you. Your significant other will feel bad about themselves. They will think they are not good enough for you and either break up with, divorce you, become very insecure, jealous and suspicious of you.
Married woman usually flirt because they crave the attention from multiple men and make an emotional connection while men do it because of lack of sex from their partner and are not usually emotionally connected with the person they are flirting with.
Ask yourself why you flirt with other people. Are you doing it when you’re with your partner or when they aren’t around? If you answered behind your significant others back then you are actually cheating, regardless of physical contact. The psychological damage from this type of cheating has been responsible for many divorces in the United States.
Beatriz Mileham from the University Of Florida has said studies show that internet involving social media (Facebook, Twitter, Chat Rooms) and texting are now the leaders in infidelity and more than a third of the flirting is toward a coworker or someone you know. In many cases flirting by text or phone and engaging in a sexual type flirting often leads to masturbation by one or both of the parties involved. Rather it be during or after the conversation, with men, it is always the case, as every survey conducted shows. Most women who commit this type of infidelity do not feel as though they are cheating. However multiple studies show that even if nothing physical happens there's a feeling of infidelity and betrayal as much as when two people have skin-to-skin contact. And the emotional damage can be quite substantial often leading to divorce, insecurities, trust issues, and jealousy. If the flirting involved personal discussions about marital problems, personal issues, or was strong in sexual nature the emotional damage could be severe.
Gill Munro, from the British marriage guidance service said: "The sort of experience our counselors are having is similar to that described in this study. The most common problem, as this research suggests, is that even when nothing physical happens there's a feeling of infidelity and betrayal as much as when two people have a real affair."
Married couples that have tried to work through it typically wind up in divorce within 6 months of the betrayal.
If you are doing it for attention, then sit down with your significant other for a much-needed talk. They might not be giving you the attention you need but flirting, texting, or cyber flirting is not acceptable behavior in any country . Use examples and be honest with yourself and your partner, you need to be honest and open in order to make a difference.
If they give you plenty of attention, you may have a deeper self-esteem issue you need to clear up. You don’t need acceptance from everyone you see to know you are a decent person.
Really consider your partner’s feelings in all of this. You already have someone who cares about you and knows you better than most people under the sun. Flirting with other people will ruin all of that. Is risking history with your partner really worth it?